ANGER & SHAME

Emotion, whether anger or another emotion, is just an emotion and we have to make a choice how we process it and choose NOT to act angry. Anger does not equate VIOLENCE. People can use anger to change what causes them anger in a productive way or destroy. Take charge of your anger and harness the power to help you and not harm you or others. 

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is highly recommended for emotional regulation. 

1) The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance available on  Amazon or other retailers (https://www.amazon.ca/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook/dp/1572245131/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1519096830&sr=8-1&keywords=dialectical+behavior+therapy+skills+workbook)

2) www.dbtselfhelp.com 

3) The Anger Iceberg 

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-anger-iceberg/

4) Calming Strong Emotions 

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/simple-way-calm-feeling-strong-emotions/

5) Calming the Emotional Storm: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Manage Your Emotions and Balance Your Life

6) How Mindfulness Helps Us get Unstuck https://www.mindful.org/mindfulness-helps-get-unstuck/

7) DBT Self-help online www.dbtselfhelp.com

1) The Anger Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal with Anger and Frustration (https://www.amazon.ca/Anger-Workbook-Teens-Activities-Frustration/dp/1572246995/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1519097047&sr=1-1&keywords=Anger++workbook+teenagers) 

2) Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense Emotions: DBT Skills to Help Your Teen Navigate Emotional and Behavioral Challenges (https://www.amazon.ca/Parenting-Teen-Who-Intense-Emotions/dp/1626251886/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1519097095&sr=1-2&keywords=Anger++workbook+teenagers) 

3) Mindfulness for Teen Anger: A Workbook to Overcome Anger and Aggression Using MBSR and DBT Skills (https://www.amazon.ca/Mindfulness-Teen-Anger-Workbook-Aggression/dp/1608829162/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1519097123&sr=1-3&keywords=Anger++workbook+teenagers) 

4) Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Teens: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills for Helping You Manage Mood Swings, Control Angry Outbursts, and Get Along with Others 

1) Anh's Anger (https://www.amazon.ca/Anhs-Anger-Gail-Silver/dp/1888375949/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1519097257&sr=1-1&keywords=anhs+anger) 

2) What to Do When You Grumble Too Much: A Kids Guide to Overcoming Negativity 

3) What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Problems with Anger

4) Neat-Oh! Magnutto Make A Mood Educational Magnetic Activity   

5) In My Heart: A Book of Feelings 

6) My Feelings Board Game 

7) Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Kids: A DBT-Based Skills Workbook to Help Children Manage Mood Swings, Control Angry Outbursts, and Get Along with Others

1) Difference between Guilt and Shame https://www.nicabm.com/guilt-vs-shame/ 

2) How to Tame our Inner Critic https://www.mindful.org/basic-meditation-tame-inner-critic/

3) Self-Compassion https://www.mindful.org/dont-fall-into-the-self-esteem-trap-try-a-little-self-kindness/

4)Another Article on Inner Critic https://www.mindful.org/quieting-inner-critic/

5)Brene Brown Listening to Shame 

https://www.fs.blog/2014/10/brene-brown-guilt-shame/

6) The Difference between Shame and Guilt - Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/shame/201305/the-difference-between-guilt-and-shame

7) Brene Brown The Gift of Imperfection https://www.amazon.ca/Gifts-Imperfection-Think-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1522616698&sr=8-1&keywords=brene+brown+the+gift+of+imperfection

8) Pete Walker Shrinking the Inner Critic http://pete-walker.com/shrinkingInnerCritic.htm

9) Increasing Resilience https://www.mindful.org/how-people-learn-to-increase-their-resilience/